Hi,

 

I’m Michele Weiner-Davis. I am so excited to share with you my new training program on helping couples heal from infidelity and make their marriages loving again.

 

Look, dealing with infidelity is hard. It’s very hard. It’s hard for the people going through it, and it’s hard for therapists who want to help them. 

 

Plus, if you’re like me, and I suspect you are, you never received any hands-on training to guide couples through this very difficult time.  Perhaps, you’ve been relying on generic therapy skills to help couples heal, hoping these skills would work.   They don’t.  They’re not enough.  

 

After an affair, couples are so lost, so desperate, they truly need a therapist who knows exactly what to expect and exactly what to do when the inevitable struggles surface.  In short, couples need an “infidelity specialist.”   

  

This doesn’t mean that you have to work exclusively with couples who are dealing with infidelity.  It just means that if you work with couples, infidelity is already a part of what you do and that being so, you need a clear-cut model to guide you. 

 

And that’s what my training program is all about, a hands-on, step-by-step map for walking couples through the complex process of repairing and rebuilding their marriages.  

 

So, what do I know about helping couples heal from infidelity? A lot. 

 

Many people know me as the Divorce Buster because of my work with couples teetering on the brink of divorce. I’ve been specializing in divorce prevention work since the mid-80’s.

 

I’m also the author of 8 books including the best-selling Divorce Busting, The Sex-Starved Marriage and most recently, Healing from Infidelity. 

 

My TEDx TALK: THE SEX-STARVED MARRIAGE has been viewed more than 3 .7 MILLION TIMES!

 

For more than a decade, I have limited my private practice to offering 2-day intensives with couples who fly from all over the world to work with me in Boulder, Colorado. 

 

Approximately 85% of these couples are dealing with issues related to affairs.  As a result, I’ve learned more about infidelity and how to help people move beyond the pain than I ever thought possible.  I’ve paid close attention to what works- and what doesn’t- in terms of rebuilding trust and healing marriages.  And the result? 

 

My hot-off-the-press video training program- “Healing from Infidelity: A Program For Professionals.”  

 

I am so excited about this training for several reasons.  One- it works! Thousands of couples have mended their marriages as a result of my directive, solution-based, optimistic approach. 

 

Plus, true to my teaching style over the years- I’ve traveled extensively offering professional workshops all over the world- my training is short on theory and long on practical “how-to’s.” I don’t bore you with demographics about the unfaithful, nor do I wax eloquent about why people stray.  

 

Instead, I describe the most common clinical conundrums you’ll encounter with these couples, along with specific suggestions on how to handle each one.  I’m talking, “what to do, what to say.”  I leave nothing to the imagination! 

 

I’m also excited about this video training because you can access it anywhere, at any time!  You don’t have to go to a conference, leave home or get on long security lines at the airport.  You can watch it at your convenience, at home in your fashion forward P.J.’s if you like! 

 

 

 

So, join me in my mission to help couples love each other more deeply after betrayal.  You’ll feel more confident and satisfied with the work you’re doing with these couples.  I know you will find my program to be incredibly helpful to you. 

 

Plus, when you watch this training, you will feel like I’m in the room with you, guiding you every step of the way.  

 

 

 

• My background - how I became an infidelity specialist

• Two primary reasons couples feel uncertain about staying together after infidelity

• How to deal with intense/angry emotions in the session

• How to soothe betrayed spouse’s PTSD symptoms 

• What to do when one spouse wants to discuss the affair and the other doesn’t     

• How detailed should the information about the affair be

• What happens when you find out about an affair in an individual session.  What do you do?

• SPOILER ALERT***  -  I'VE CHANGED MY THINKING ON THIS

• Another dilemma - what to do when the unfaithful spouse won't give up the affair

• Who should clients talk to about the affair - family, friends, children?

• How to instill hopefulness when couples feel despair

• Why being extremely directive is essential during the process

• How to be directive and firm without alienating either spouse

• The importance of asking your client exactly how he or she ended the affair.  Discover how I handle this issue

• How shame often stands in the way of experiencing empathy and remorse

• What to do when shame creates impasses

• Helping unfaithful spouses make apologies that are meaningful and effective

• Rebuilding trust through "x-treme transparency and accountability"

• What to do when the betrayed spouse can't or won't acknowledge positive change in the behavior of the unfaithful spouse

• Setbacks - what to do

• How do you respond to a couple who feels hopeless and wants to quit

• How to discuss the relationship issues that contributed to the affair - with both spouses

• When to separate spouses into individual sessions - what to say and do

• How to handle the  unfaithful spouse's lingering feelings about the affair partner

• How to strategically handle conversations about the unfaithful spouses's grief in light of the betrayed spouse's pain

• Helping the unfaithful spouse to understand how and why the affair occurred

• Helping couples talk about sex and become sexual after the affair- I share what really works

• What to do when the betrayed spouse wants to be close physically, but still struggles with it

• Fostering forgiveness

• What to do when forgiveness isn't possible

• Redefining expectations about monogamy moving forward

• Creating rituals to celebrate progress and healing

• What to do differently if one spouse is on the fence about the marriage

The program is available to stream via the internet.  You can also download the videos, audio lesson components and the 35 page Program Outline, Workbook/Notebook.

It's my goal to add additional coaching and mastermind group opportunities for my colleagues and trainees.  Early "Adopters" (Purchasers) will be afforded the opportunity to submit questions to me and have them answered on additional video "bonuses" inside the program. 

"Early Adopters" will also receive advance notice of additional coaching and mastermind group openings!

 

 

 

 

 Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW is an internationally renowned relationship expert, best-selling author, marriage therapist, and professional speaker who specializes in helping people change their lives and improve important relationships.

 

Among the first in her field to courageously speak out about the pitfalls of unnecessary divorce, Michele has been active in spearheading the now popular movement urging couples to make their marriages work and keep their families together.

 

Michele’s private practice is limited to two-day “intensives” in Boulder, CO. Clients come to Colorado from all over the world to experience these transformational sessions with her.

 

She is the author of eight books including her best-selling books, DIVORCE BUSTING: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again (Simon & Schuster), THE SEX-STARVED MARRIAGE: A Couple's Guide to Boosting Their Marriage Libido (Simon & Schuster)… and her most recent, HEALING FROM INFIDELITY (Amazon) : A Divorce Busting® Guide to Rebuilding Your Marriage After an Affair.

 

Michele is the Director of The Divorce Busting® Center with offices in Boulder, Colorado and Woodstock, Illinois. In addition to her private practice, Michele is a highly acclaimed and sought-after speaker, known for her life-transforming, energetic and entertaining keynote addresses and seminars for both lay and professional audiences including Fortune 500 companies, universities, religious organizations, the military, professional organizations, and community agencies. She consistently ranks among top presenters at national conferences. Her extremely busy website, www.divorcebusting.com attracts thousands of visitors each day.

 

Michele's work is highly regarded in professional circles. She was the recipient of The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy's prestigious Outstanding Contribution to the Field of Marriage and Therapy Award and Smart Marriages' Impact Award.

 

Her work has been featured in major newspapers such as the New York Times, USA TODAY, Los Angeles Times, Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, Wall Street Journal, and magazines such as Time, Redbook, Ladies Home Journal, Essence, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Woman's Day, Men's Health, New Woman, and McCall's.

 

She has made countless media appearances on shows such as Oprah, 48 Hours, 20/20, The Today Show, CBS This Morning, CBS Evening News, CNN, BBC, PBS and Bill O'Reilly. Michele's Keeping Love Alive program aired on PBS stations nationwide. She completed a reality based show for the BBC about helping couples save their marriages.

 

Her TEDx TALK: THE SEX-STARVED MARRIAGE has been viewed more than 3.5 million times!

 

Michele maintains that her true expertise in helping couples have great relationships is derived from first-hand experience. She and her husband met at Grinnell College and have been married for more than forty years.

 

Books by Michele Weiner-Davis

 

My books Divorce Busting and The Divorce Remedy are dedicated to the idea that most relationship problems can and should be resolved. What are generally missing are the necessary skills, tools, compassion, and understanding. The books are chock full of skills and practical advice.

 

My book, Change Your Life and Everyone In It, takes my change methodology and applies it to other difficult relationships, anxiety, depression, lack of motivation, etc. It’s about understanding and applying the Anatomy of Change.

 

In A Woman’s Guide to Changing Her Man I’ve written a woman-to-woman manual about how men and women differ, and, knowing that, what to do. The book’s divided into three parts: Ready, Aim, Fire. In it’s German translation, my friend tells me it was re-titled Dog Training. Really?

 

My first book, In Search of Solutions, is a textbook used in several graduate schools, coauthored with my co-founder of Solution-Oriented Therapy, Bill O’Hanlon. It describes the principles and applications of Solution-Oriented Therapy (SOT) and its genealogy from Milton Erickson to the Mental Research Institute to [my mentor] Steve de Shazer at BTFC.

 

SOT works quickly by helping people identify fail-safe strategies to resolve problems. Instead of identifying the causes of problems, SOT identifies the causes of solutions. It’s a technology for change, not introspection. The approach is based on a very simple formula: do more of what works and less of what doesn’t.

 

The Sex-Starved Marriage and The Sex-Starved Wife are about the sexual desire discrepancies inside marriage. Honestly, it took me years in my clinical work to ask couples in my private practice about their sex lives. No Longer. My TEDx TALK: THE SEX-STARVED MARRIAGE, viewed by more than 3 million has prompted a torrent of interest about the subject of sexual desire gap.

 

My most recent book, Healing From Infidelity (January 2017) is about the devastating effects of affairs and infidelity on marriage. I present a step-by-step program showing couples how they can indeed heal and even strengthen their marriages.

 

 

Praise For Healing From Infidelity:

 

"Rebuilding a marriage after an affair is one of life's biggest hurts and challenges. Weiner-Davis' no-nonsense advice is clear, insightful, and can save your marriage."

Daniel G. Amen, MD Founder, Amen Clinics, Co-author of, The Brain Warrior's Way

 

"Divorce Busting therapist, Michele Weiner-Davis is an able guide for couples experiencing the pain and heartbreak of infidelity. Her important book offers compassionate and non-judgmental help for both the betrayed spouse and the unfaithful partner. Any couple seeking to bring their relationship back from the brink should start with Healing from Infidelity.

"Ask Amy" widely syndicated daily advice columnist Amy Dickinson, Chicago Tribune

 

"In a paradoxical sense, Healing from Infidelity, another brilliant book by Michele Weiner-Davis, is a call for fidelity to marriage regardless of commitment challenges. Filled with wisdom from years of clinical experience, case histories that document the healing process and practical guidance for all the stages on the journey to recovery, this book will be useful to every couple who has experienced an affair and therapists who want to help them."

Harville Hendrix, Ph. D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph. D, Co-authors of, Making Marriage Simple

 

"Healing from Infidelity is by far the most optimistic, pro-marriage book for couples dealing with infidelity.Michele's crucial message is that most couples can and do survive infidelity and can develop a stronger marital and sexual bond. The relapse prevention chapter " Ten tips for affair-proofing your marriage" should be read by all couples."

Barry McCarthy, Ph.D.  is author of Rekindling Desire and Enduring Desire

 

 

 

 

Praise For The Sex-Starved Wife:

 

“If you think that women are the only ones saying ‘no’ to sex, think again. Millions of men have little desire to be intimate with their wives. This gutsy book reveals the truth about what goes on behind closed doors and what couples ca do to bridge the desire gap”

-John Gray, author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

 

“The Sex-Starved Wife will dispel the commonly held myth that men are always the more highly sexed spouse. By shedding light on this important subject and offering tools for boosting desire, Weiner-Davis will help couples move from emotional and physical distance to building more loving and passionate sexual relationships.”

-HARVILLE HENDRIX, author of Getting The Love You Want and Keeping the Love You Find

 

 

Praise For Change Your Life And Everyone In It:

 

“Full of practical solutions to life’s dilemmas. Everyone will benefit from reading it.” -Bernie Siegel, M.D., author of Love, Medicine & Miracles

 

“This book spreads hope – reminding us that vision is greater than baggage, that effective people are opportunity-minded, not problem-minded. Michel Weiner-Davis will restore your faith in your own instincts and resourcefulness.”

-Stephen Covey, author of The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People

 

 

Praise for The Divorce Remedy:

 

‘Michele Weiner-Davis provides a road map for finding your way back to a loving marriage.’

-John Gray, author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

 

“Poignant, powerful, practical, full of hope. Michele Weiner-Davis lives up to her reputation as one of the foremost marriage educators of our culture.”

-Pat Love, author of The Truth About Love

 

 

 

Praise for Getting Through To The Man You Love:

 

“I have again caught Michele Weiner-Davis with another great book to help enrich marriages and friendships.”

-Gary Smalley, author of Love Is A Decision and Making Love Last Forever

 

“Michele Weiner-Davis knows men so well it’s almost frightening.”
-Rob Becker, author of Defending the Caveman

 

 

 

Praise for The Sex-Starved Marriage:

 

“Michele Weiner-Davis offers a frank and reassuring guide for couples struggling with the ‘desire doldrums’. In this hard-to-talk-about realm of sex, very welcome indeed.”

-Publishers Weekly

 

“The Sex-Starved Marriage is so well timed and so aptly titled that it is primed to become a cultural sensation. A get-cracking-and-solve-the-problem kind of book.”

-The Atlantic

Receive 6.5 CE Credits after watching "Healing from Infidelity: A Professional Program."  You  must  complete an evaluation and pass a T/F quiz after you watch the course to get CE credits.

See details below:

Continuing Education Program Approval

Date: 11/28/17

The following program has been approved for continuing education credit:Title: Healing From Infidelity: A Professional Program. Sponsoring person or organization: Michele Weiner-Davis Training Corp.  Date(s):  Online  Location: Online  Presented by: Michele Weiner-Davis, LCSW

Professions approved: _X_ Psychologists  _X_ Marriage & Family Therapists _X_ Licensed Professional Counselors _X_ Nurses

Number of CE hours credit per program: 6.5

Approved for:  Michele Weiner-Davis, 885 Arapahoe Ave, Boulder, CO 80302

 Commonwealth Educational Seminars, 1020 Osterville West Barnstable Rd, Marstons Mills, MA 02648      (800) 376-3345 – Fax: (508) 420-3360     CommonwealthSeminars.com     [email protected]

 

Continuing Education credit for this program is awarded by Commonwealth Educational Seminars (CES) for the following professions:

Licensed Professional Counselors/Licensed Mental Health Counselors: Commonwealth Educational Seminars (CES) is entitled to grant continuing education credit for LPCs/LMHCs in the following states: AZ, AR, CA, CO, CT, DE, DC, FL, GA, HI, ID, IL, IN, IA, KS, KY, ME, MA, MO, NE, NH, NJ, NM, NC, OR, PA, RI, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VT, VA, WA, WI, WY. CES maintains responsibility for this program. LPCs/LMHCs completing the program will receive 6.5 continuing education hours of credit.

Psychologists: Commonwealth Educational Seminars (CES) is approved by the American Psychological Association (APA) to offer continuing education credit programs. Commonwealth Educational Seminars maintains responsibility for this program and its content. Psychologists receive 6.5 hours of continuing education credit upon completing this program.

Marriage and Family Therapists: Continuing education credit for Marriage & Family Therapists is awarded in the following states: AL, AR, AZ, CA, CO, CT, DC, DE, FL, GA, HI, ID, IN, IA, KS, ME, MD, MO, MT, NE, NH, NJ, NM, NC, OR, PA, RI, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VT, VA, WA, WI, WY. CES maintains responsibility for this program. Marriage and Family therapists completing this program will receive 6.5 CE hours of credit.

Nurses:  As an American Psychological Association approved provider CES programs are accepted by the American Nurses Credentialing Center (ANCC). Every state Board of Nursing accepts ANCC approved programs except California and Iowa, however CES is also an approved Continuing Education provider by the California Board of Registered Nursing, (Provider Number CEP15567) which is also accepted by the Iowa Board of Nursing. Nurses completing this program receive 6.5 CE hours of credit.

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