Behind Closed Doors 2019 with Michele
We've put together this information package to keep you up to date on Training details and updates.
I Love Small Groups!
Our group will be small enough for questions and answers, allowing me time to explain how and why I do what I do. While I do presentations for groups of thousands of participants, this is truly my favorite training.
It's Casual and Fun!
We're here to have fun, learn, and get to know each other. Whether you've seen me teach a dozen times or this is your first, I want to make this a special event.
Get To Know Each Other
I'll explain how I got to where I'm at professionally and personally and what I hope you'll take away from our time together.
Day 1 - October 13
We'll meet at the Best Western Plus Boulder Inn, located at 770 28th Street, Boulder, CO 80303.
Registration begins at 8:30 am; the session will begin at 9:00 am.
We'll provide lunch around noon and introduce ourselves to the group.
Morning 9:00am - 12:00pm
Introduction - Michele
Define a Solution-Focused Marital Mindset Learn how to clear your mind from the clutter that channels your attention to marital stuckness in couples rather than rich possibilities.
List 3 Methods for Becoming a Hope Monger: The Necessary Ingredient for Successful Outcomes Learn why instilling hope just might be the most important factor in successful therapy and what you can to do instill it
List Divorce Busting® Do’s and Don’ts Helping couples in conflict beat the divorce odds isn’t simply a matter of having a “marriage-friendly” philosophy. Sometimes, even well-meaning therapists do things that backfire. Learn which strategies increase commitment and which to avoid
*Lunch - provided by us
Afternoon 1:15pm - 4:00pm
The Divorce Busting® Do’s and Don’ts Continued
List the Steps for Conducting a First (and subsequent) Session Learn a step-by-step map for conducting first and subsequent sessions in order to have a clear vision of where you’re headed clinically.
Describe the Commitment Decision Tree People begin therapy with varying levels of motivation to work on their marriages. Learn how to adjust your approach with each spouse accordingly
Day 2
October 14 9:00am - 12:00pm
List the Steps for Helping One Spouse Achieve Relationship Change- It Takes One to Tango®
Learn tools for doing effective couples therapy with one spouse. Also, know when to see spouses individually rather than conjointly
*Lunch Break*
October 14 1:00pm - 4:00pm
Define The Last Resort Technique and When to Employ it
Learn a concrete, step-by-step plan to help the one spouse who wants to save the marriage when his or her spouse seems convinced divorce is the only answer and all else has failed
Day 3
October 15 9:00am-12:00 pm
List 5 Steps Both the Unfaithful and Betrayed Spouses Must Take to Heal from Infidelity
Helping couples deal with the crisis of affairs can be daunting unless you have a plan. Get all the tools you need to move couples from the pain of discovery to rebuilding trust and reconnecting emotionally and physically
*Lunch break*
October 15 1:00pm -4:00 pm
Healing from Infidelity- continued
Evening Social Get together at Jim & Michele's Home -Time TBD
Day 4
October 16 9:00am-12:00 pm
Describe 2 Methods to help couples Bridge a Sexual Desire Gap Differences is sexual desire can create major problems in relationships. Become comfortable with and skilled at addressing this issue with couples
Describe the importance of Integrating Marriage Education and Therapy Teach couples practical skills that build on their inner resources
October 16 1:15pm-3:30 pm
List 2 Techniques for Dealing with Difficult Clients When clients push our buttons, we become less effective. Learn creative ways to bypass clinical impasses
Describe 7 Ways to Bring Yourself to the Process That You Didn't Learn in Graduate School Research suggests that the therapeutic relationship correlates more highly with successful therapeutic outcome than the model of therapy used by the therapist. Learn new ways to personalize your sessions and improve your work with couples
Parting Thoughts
Frequently Asked Questions
So, so much to do, so little time. Start here
Often folks stay at the conference hotel The Best Western Plus Boulder Inn : use reference code: DBC for block rates (while available). This may be most convenient if you don't have a car or don't want to be bothered with one. Other hotels attendees like include the St. Julien Hotel & Spa, The Hotel Boulderado, The Millenium Harvest House Boulder - shop around for the best prices and availability. There are a ton of options available, but Boulder is a popular destination - don't dawdle.
Are you kidding me? Rocky Mountain National Park, Denver, Summit County (Keystone, Breckenridge, Lake Dillon), Vail, Aspen - it's an absolute play land. We have a few Coloradans attending - I'm sure they will have ideas too.
Boulder (and the training) are both very casual/informal. Dress comfortably, check the weather when packing. The meeting room may be a little chilly or warm for individual tastes, so bring something to put on and be prepared to take something off.
"Behind Closed Doors" is the most comprehensive training I do. Our 4 days together allows me time to delve more deeply into the topics I wish to cover. The shorter seminars, trainings, and workshops I offer are often just outlines of my material, without offering the time for comprehensive discussion. This 4-day training allows me much more time to interact with participants through questions/answers, social interaction and group process. Another major benefit is exposure to my most recent intensive client videos with an explanation of my techniques and philosophy.
